These days, for fear of speaking or getting too emotional, so many people choose not to speak at a funeral. The reasons are plenty for a growing use of celebrants. So, what should you expect from a funeral celebrant?
Celebrants believe that every life is worth honouring and that each end-of-life service should be meaningful as possible. A funeral, a memorial, an ash-scattering or something quite different is the perfect tribute to a loved one.
To be successful within this challenging role, one needs good training, an inherent aptitude and personal qualities.
A funeral celebrant will have the skills and expertise to guide you through the many options to consider for a service. Responding to your intentions and expectations, they will know, from experience, what works well. Also, they will be eager to find and accommodate something new.
Funeral celebrants will provide alternatives for you to consider, not just direction.
Naturally, you can expect a little passion about getting the service just right. Funeral celebrants know how significant a meaningful service can be. They will try their hardest to exceed your expectations.
The best compliment a funeral celebrant receives is when they are asked “How long did you know (the deceased)? It means the service was successful and truly reflected the loved one.
Are there laws about end-of-life services?
No, there are no legal requirements for end-of-life services. There are no laws regulating where an end-of-life service can be held, occur or include.
Yes, there are laws that govern disposal of the physical remains, but there are no ‘have-to-do’ elements for the service.
Your personal preferences, family priorities, cultural or religious traditions can guide the decisions that you will make about the service. The location and service can be as unique as the person it honours.
Will the funeral directors accommodate a funeral celebrant?
Inform your funeral director if it is important to have a very personal service. Ask them if you are able to independently choose a funeral celebrant or will there be some limitations to your choices? If this is the case, you may want to exclude the ceremony from their package. Don’t forget. they are there to serve you.
Alternatively, you can find your own celebrant and make your own decisions about the ceremony.
We recommend the Institute of Civil Funerals. Visit www.iocf.co.uk