Why do we have emergency contacts? Ultimately, it’s because we will all need – at one point or another – a trustworthy person to represent us if we are incapable of doing so ourselves. In most cases, emergency contacts are a loved one such as a parent, spouse, adult child, or trusted friend.
If possible, it’s best to have at least two emergency contacts. This way, they will be able to work together, or, if one is unavailable, the other can take charge. It’s best to select a person(s) who will follow through with your wishes, even if they don’t personally agree with what you have decided. Once you have selected your emergency contacts, it’s time to have a conversation about your wishes. Too often, emergency contacts are unprepared for the tasks they face, or they are left with a mess to unravel. You can take a little time now to make things easier in the future.
- Set up a time to sit down with each emergency contact individually or bring them together at the same time.
- Select a quiet, private place so that you can share freely.
- Share your reasons for getting your affairs in order.
- Tell them where you keep your important documents, and if you’ve completed a funeral plan, give them a copy.
- Listen to any concerns they may have and answer their questions.
The Six Things That Your Emergency Contact Needs to Know.
The location of your legal documents and insurance policies. Your emergency contacts need to know where to find important documents like your legal will, birth and marriage certificates, deeds, titles, insurance policies, powers of attorney documents, health care directives, funeral planning documents, and records of creditors as well as assets, including digital assets and passwords. If you don’t have a legal will, consider creating one and be sure to regularly review your insurance policies and update your beneficiary information. Also, if needed, consider whether it is appropriate to give your emergency contacts power of attorney (medical and/or financial). This way they can handle your financial matters in case you are unable to do so. If you have questions, make an appointment with a solicitor to review these legal matters.
The Terms of Your Will and Trusts. Be sure to go over your will with your emergency contacts. This includes your wishes for the distribution of your assets, heirlooms, furniture and keepsakes. To ensure that your wishes are honoured, include as many of your assets in the will as possible. It is possible that you will appoint one of your emergency contacts as the executor of your will. Be sure to let your executor know the contents of your will so there are no surprises. If there are any belongings or assets that are not directly addressed in the will, be sure to cover your wishes with at least two of your emergency contacts and put your wishes in writing. Additionally, you may also wish to set up trusts for your children or grandchildren with certain terms. Consider appointing one of your emergency contacts as trustee and discuss the terms of those trusts.
Your Wishes for Medical Care. Have you made your medical wishes known? Have you given your emergency contacts medical power of attorney? This will protect you in case you are incapacitated and/or unable to make medical decisions for yourself. Be sure to talk to whomever you’ve appointed as your medical power of attorney about your wishes for medical treatment and life-saving measures.
Allergies and Blood Type. If you have allergies to food or medications, your emergency contacts should know so that they can alert medical professionals if you are unable to do so. It is also a good idea to provide your emergency contacts with a record of your blood type in case of emergency.
The Care of Your Dependents and Pets. Be sure that you have made provision for the care of your dependents should anything happen to you as the primary caregiver. The same is true for your pets. Let your emergency contacts know who you name as guardian and how you would like any insurance policy benefits or other assets to be set up after your death to provide financially for your children. If you have a family member or friend who is willing to care for your pets, be sure to contact that person to let them know your wishes.
Your Funeral Wishes and Plans. One way we can love and protect those we will leave behind is to put together a healing and meaningful funeral plan. The best way to do this is with an established, reputable funeral director of your choice. The funeral director can educate you about your options so you can make decisions that are good for you and your loved ones. Your local funeral director will ensure that your plan is practical, legal, within your budget, and ultimately, healthy for your grieving family. Be sure to give your emergency contacts a copy of your funeral plans and keep a copy on file at the funeral home of your choice.
Address Your Loved One’s Concerns. Depending on who your emergency contacts are, they may express some concern when you discuss your funeral plan. Some of the most common reactions include:
- Any discussions about funerals can lead to feelings of alarm because the other person may wonder if you are okay, if something is wrong. Prepare to discuss your health situation with them. The important thing is to be truthful.
- Funerals are a subject most people would rather avoid. So, children may say “Don’t worry about it. We will take care of this later. Let’s not talk about this now.” Listen to their concerns, but keep in mind that denial is not an effective strategy. The fact is, we are all going to die someday. The most loving thing we can do is take care of as much as possible in advance.
- You may encounter some opposition to your plans if your emergency contacts are people who are very close to you. They may have ideas of their own on the topic. You will need to review your plans and determine if anything is up for debate or not.
- Some of your loved ones may not understand or trust a prepaid funeral plan. Many of their fears can be addressed with a basic understanding of consumer protection laws, cost guarantees and paperwork you have received from the funeral director. If they are still unsure about your plans, feel free to contact your local funeral director who can answer their questions.
Keep Your Documents Safe and Accessible. Lastly, put all of your important documents in a safe place. Make sure that your emergency contacts know where to find them. If you decide to keep your documents in a safe, share the combination with your emergency contacts. Some people may choose to use a safety deposit box. If you do so, co-ordinate with the bank to ensure that your emergency contacts have access to it, if needed. As an alternative, you might consider purchasing a watertight, fire-proof, easily transportable container. This way, your documents are safe and transportable if an unexpected event occurs.
By gathering all these documents, you are taking the first steps to getting your affairs in order. Depending on how far along you are in this process, it may take some time to get all this information organised. Be sure to consult trusted professionals, such as a solicitor and your local funeral director. In the end, you will be glad you did!